My life is like a laboratory and happiness has been the experiment.Everyday is a little bit different. Within those days there’s moments of good, bad and ugly.
My only goal is to be in happiness for most of my day. Which is a paradoxical goal. If I don’t untie myself from happiness in moments during my day I will be lodged into believing that being bored or depressed is death. It’s easy to forget that unhappiness is actually a good thing. Unhappiness actually makes us change.
Dare I say. Try to be unhappy and you’ll find happiness?
Often trying to do something really bad can lead to greatness. Jackson Pollack?? I’m just sayin. Finding weird ways is the way.
Rules that worked yesterday might not work today. But at least in making those rules for yourself makes you know that you have rules and that when you are breaking them it makes you effective for taking the temperature of your happiness.
Here we go: These Eight ways to stay Unhappily Happy.
1. Money is good. Many other things are better. Money in all honesty has minimal effects on happiness. Lots of money though can make you happy. So be the best in your area. Don’t focus on money.
2. Work on your passion daily I know that’s easier said than done (though not as difficult as you might think), but that doesn’t mean you cannot challenge yourself to find “the zone” and “flow” in other parts of your life.
3. What sort of activities do you enjoy outside of work? Knitting? Acting? Working out? (High five) Playing a musical instrument? Painting? Hiking? Walking in nature? Writing? Pogo sticking? Snapchat? Facebook?
Whatever it is find a way to make time for these things as often as possible. Challenge yourself to make room for them in a busy day, for we all know that “I don’t have time” is a big fat lie.
For example, I’m currently blocking off time to learn how to use my DSLR. 30 minutes a day; if I don’t make it a priority, I’ll always find some more work to do. And more work isn’t always the better decision.
4. Fasting In an interview with Vanity Fair, President Obama described an interesting strategy he uses to make his life simpler. “You’ll see I wear only gray or blue suits,” he said. “I’m trying to pare down decisions. I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.” What President Obama is referring to is a concept called “decision fatigue” and it can drastically impact your ability to make decisions throughout the day.
I’m not trying to make you a Fasting Lover but you might find to love this. For me, intermittent fasting provides the same benefit. Eliminating breakfast and not thinking about food until 12pm each day has allowed me to reduce the number of decisions I make in the morning, thus reducing decision fatigue and increasing the willpower I have for the rest of the day. That means I have more Energy, Happiness and more time to put toward doing work that is important to me.
5. Be Radically Honest — Even When You’re a pathological liar.
Honestly, I fall into this a lot. I’m not perfect. I don’t pretend to be. But lying can be like a super power. Except it’s a Dark side of the force type super power that leads to more trouble the. Good. If you have some raging feeling toward someone or some completely devastating emotion comes over you, completely release it. Be honest about it. Accept reality. Read my (Accepting reality article). In accepting that you don’t feel well, you’ll find your real happiness, because you’ll be able to process it that much more quickly. It’s not negative emotions we don’t like, it’s resisting them (or anything).
6. Make small talk with a stranger Chatting up your cashier? Chyeah! This is good for you!
Behavioral scientists gave a group of Chicago train commuters a $5 Starbucks gift card in exchange for striking up a conversation with a stranger during their ride. (While another group kept to themselves and didn’t interact.)
Those who started conversations reported a more positive experience than those who had stayed quiet—even though they had predicted they would feel happier being solitary.
The easiest way to meet someone new is to give a compliment or maybe ask a question.
So meet some strangers by asking questions.
My favorite stranger danger question is: If you could get away with eating any fatty food you wanted for the rest of your life without gaining a pound, what would it be?
A simple “How do make big decisions in your life?” You’ll be surprised by the answers.
7. Moving meditation
When you consider a practice of meditation, you probably envision yourself with eyes closed, sitting cross-legged and immobile. Which is cool and all but many spiritual exercises use postures and movement as paths to contemplation. “It’s multitasking, but in the best way.”
Walking Meditation: In walking meditation, called kinhin in the Zen tradition, practitioners move slowly and continuously while staying aware of the body and mind. For this form of meditation, use good posture (just like seated meditation), take deep breaths, and experience the motions of the body. The walking movement should be continuous, so pick a safe place with space to roam around, like a large park or field.
8. Dress up
“Dress up for the job you want to have.” -Steven Covey
It’s weird but I love this one like I love watching kittens wear mittens. Speaking of clothing: Buying new garb can amp up mood, but a person doesn’t have to drop cash to reap clothes’ benefits. Wearing the color red can boost confidence and self-esteem—which might just be the pick-me-up you were looking for. Wearing a suit for a dude or a dress for a gal even if you’re at home all day by yourself can seriously amp up your mood.
9. Create something
Whether it’s through this blog or writing down a list of ideas or even a drawing. It makes my brain come to life in ways that it’s not used to.
It’s important here, to never expect results from your creativity. When I was working on my YouTube channel, for instance, it made me very anxious to know whether or not it was going to get accepted by its viewers. I was too attached to the results of the creativity. Just like now I might be too attached to blog traffic. But in any case. Having that little bit of anxiety actually helps boosts the creative efforts.
So Was that 9 ways to make you unhappily happy?
Logan maybe you should use numbers like everyone else? Nah…..
The thing is we never get tired of thinking about happiness, do we? Life is so much nicer when we’re able to couple it with joy. Shooting for happiness though is a paradox. The things your brain is telling you will make you happy will not ALWAYS make you happy. That’s why you should actually listen to this blog and try some of these out. If you’re like me. And you have compulsive indecision. I’m telling you now that you won’t regret meeting a stranger. This one will always make you happy.
But really at the end of the day…
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