luck

Without luck, I’m dead. For me, good luck equals happiness. On a scale of happiness from 0 to 10, I would guess I’m about a seven or an eight. 

When I was in college, I was probably about a zero. Or at different points in this story, I was maybe at a negative. So I’m trending upwards. Now that I’ve graduated I’ve decided that I’m not waiting in luck to become a person of note. This is why I’m outlining what I need 

To stick to in order to create my own luck. 

My Only Three Goals in Life

  1. I want to be happy. (Professional author/ actor/ athlete/ advice giver)
  2. I want to eradicate unhappiness in my life. (Very similar to number 1)
  3. I want every day to be as smooth as possible. No hassles. Routine is imperative. 

That’s it. I’m not asking for much. I need simple goals, or else I can’t achieve them.

There’s been at least ten times in my life that everything seemed so low I felt like I would never achieve the above three things and the world would be better off without me.

Other times I felt like I was stuck at a crossroads and would never figure out which road to take. Each time I bounced back. Somehow everything always works out. 

When I look back at these times now I realize there was a common thread. Each time there were four things, and only four things, that were always in place in order for me to bounce back. 

Now I try to incorporate these four things into a daily practice so I never dip low again. I bet you my left arm that if you follow these practices you’ll be tackling your good luck too. And if I’m wrong…. Good thing I’m a righty 

The Daily Practice 

A)     Physical – being in shape. Doing some form of exercise.

In 2009 I started my fitness journey. I was a mere 120 pounds. I was sickeningly skinny. I’ve dollar coaster ridden with my weight. But now I can say, “i’ve got a Spiderman like body.”  And I work hard to keep it that way. I fallen in love with the process. 

But I worked up to this. 

All you need to do, minimally, is exercise enough to break a sweat for 10 minutes. So about 20-30 minutes worth of exercise a day. This is not to get “ripped” or “shredded”. But just to be healthy.

You can’t be happy if you aren’t healthy. Also, spending this time helps your mind better deal with its daily anxieties.

If you can breathe easy when your body is in pain then its easier to breathe during difficult situations.

B)      Emotional– If someone is a drag on me, I cut them out. If someone lifts me up, I bring them closer. (My Pops, all my aunts, my sister and my family) 

Nobody is sacred here. When the plane is going down, put the oxygen mask on your face first. 

But I don’t get close to anyone bringing me down. (This is the section I don’t list.) 

This rule can’t be broken.

Energy leaks out of you if someone is draining you. And I never owe anyone an explanation. Explaining is draining.

Another important rule: always be honest. Its fun. Nobody is honest anymore and people are afraid of it.

Try being honest for a day (without being hurtful). 

Its amazing where the boundaries are of how honest one can be. Its much bigger than I thought.

C)      Mental – Every day I write down ideas, learnings, and favorite quotes. 

I write down so many ideas that it hurts my head to come up with one more. Then I try to write down five more.

The “idea muscle” atrophies within days if you don’t use it. Just like walking. If you don’t use your legs for a week, they become weaker.

You need to exercise the idea muscle. It takes about 3-6 months to build up once it atrophies. Trust me on this.

D)     Spiritual- I feel that most people don’t like the word “spiritual.” They think it means “god.” Or “religion.” But it doesn’t. Theatre and the gym are places I feel most ALIVE. Therefore it’s spiritual. 

E) Compare yourself to nobody but who you were yesterday. 

  • Pray (just saying positive affirmations out loud is my form of preying) 
  • Meditate – Meditation for more than a few minutes is hard. It’s boring. I use the app called calm. You can also meditate for 15 seconds by really visualizing what it would be like meditate for 60 minutes. Here’s a simple meditation: sit in a chair, keep the back straight, watch yourself breathe. If you get distracted, no problem. Just pull yourself back to your breath. Try it for 5 minutes. Then six and so on. 
  • Being grateful – I try to think of everyone in my life I’m grateful for. Then I try to think of more people. Then more. Its hard. It’s way easier to think of all the things you wish you had. But the mind wants to feel worthy sometimes…. this is where being grateful kicks ass. 
  • Forgiving – I picture everyone who has done me wrong. I visualize gratefulness for them (but not pity).
  • Studying- If I listen to a podcast, read a book, a play, watch a movie, or read a blog. I always take notes in my phone. It’s kind of peculiar but I like doing it. 

My own experience: I can never achieve the three “simple” goals on a steady basis without doing the above practice on a daily basis. 

Its hard to do all of this every day. Nobody is perfect. I don’t know if I’ll do all of these things today. But I know when I do it, it works. It keeps my happy, less depressed I’m not as good looking as George Clooney or as funny as Will Farrell. (I really gotta get better at not comparing myself.) `